Being told you are intimidating is not meant as a compliment, but rather a flaw or problem. More accurately in my lens, it is a perceived flaw, which I’ve been told in a variety of ways I need to fix in order to make others more comfortable. It’s kind of like being told, “you kick ass,” while being told, “don’t kick ass” at the exact same time. Or perhaps, “you kick a little too much ass.” The tone is a base level: “kick ass under the radar.” Do it quietly and politely - no one has to be the wiser. Kick ass with a side of sugar.
Why would I want do that?
I honestly do not know. I mean, I can cognitively understand the politically correct answer and I know the benefits to doing this. But isn’t that just being fake and completely inauthentic? Did I mention how much I loathe fake communication and politically correct bullshit?
Maybe I shouldn’t have said that.
It’s probably intimidating.
Alas, here I am:
I am uncomfortable pretending to think or feel otherwise from my present thought or emotion. I’m sensitive, bold at times, opinionated, unsure as much as the next person, sensual and full of equal parts fire & water. I enjoy my own company, feel alone often, care, think rationally but intuitively make most decisions, cry, stand up for myself, want to be paid for the work I do, am constantly searching, want real only, question the reasoning behind decisions often, do not have all the answers, love big, make mistakes often, and cannot pretend to be something that I am not. Apparently all of this = intimidating.
And the intimidating girl said: "I think that conclusion sucks."
